This afternoon I discovered for myself the difficulty of being an effective leader. It is difficult to satisfy the diverse expectations of my teammates. And frightening to be assertive with two parties having a conflict, because the wrong action can escalate the situation out of hand.
By nature, I avoid conflict. Perhaps even compromising to my disadvantage. However, I confess that my rage can propel me into acting like a violent mental patient.
All these years I’ve been conditioned to be passive-aggressive and sometimes aggressive. I’m still learning to be assertive without hurling sacarstic remarks and hoping to improve my conflict resolution skills. Time will tell if my efforts will bear fruit.
Logen L.
Truely I am disappointed. But for what that’s worth, you are still my best friend and it’s not affect both of us.
Shi Hui, you have the right to be angry for being treated with disrespect. I would be as well.
Firstly, I did not expect that such a conflict could happen in our team. Secondly, when it happened I was still in disbelief.
As the leader, I’m put in a difficult situation. I did not want to seem as if I was taking sides. In my mind there was a possibility of worsening the situation if I spoke up tactlessly.
Upon some reflection, I could have pointed out that your comments were made for the benefit of the project, and to help in your editing process. However, I wasn’t in the state of mind to think of such a response on cue.
I’m a flawed person and I’m a victim of my habits like everyone else. And I know you understand that.
Over the internship, I’ve come to consider you an important friend. So this will definitely not affect our friendship. 🙂